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Envy & Jealousy on Facebook – What New Research Has Revealed

Several new studies have revealed that Facebook makes countless people feel bad about themselves, leading to anger and hate against other people. Why? Because of envy and jealousy.

Shine recently published the findings of the research. And it’s not pretty. Here’s an excerpt:

“More than a third of the respondents reported feeling negative, but it had nothing to do with Facebook’s ever-changing privacy policies and advertisements—most of those bad vibes were rooted in jealousy . . . We were surprised by how many people have a negative experience from Facebook, with envy leaving them feeling lonely, frustrated or angry . . . The fact that we spend so much time on Facebook means that our petty retaliations take place there as well. Users who felt jealous of their friends’ status updates, photos, and life events often dealt with it by exaggerating their own accomplishments, posting unrealistically pretty profile shots, and sharing over-the-top status updates. That, in turn led other Facebook friends to feel jealous and inadequate—something the researchers dubbed an ‘envy spiral.’ All of that virtual envy creates a real-life problem: Users end up feeling dissatisfied with their own lives. “

Many people who aren’t happy with themselves will read of the successes of other people on social media sites and blogs. Instead of “rejoicing with those who rejoice,” they will instead become envious. This will often lead them to embellish their own accomplishments, successes, and life-achievements, lifting themselves up while tearing others down. Often people they don’t know personally. This kind of envy and jealousy is often the root behind personal attacks, slander, and character assassination which are designed to hurt the reputation of others. The motive of which is jealousy.

Christians are not immune to this problem. And it has been with us since the first century. James wrote, Continue Reading…

A Reminder from Paul of Tarsus

“Get along among yourselves, each of you doing your part . . . Gently encourage the stragglers, and reach out for the exhausted, pulling them to their feet. Be patient with each person, attentive to individual needs. And be careful that when you get on each other’s nerves you don’t snap at each other. Look for the best in each other, and always do your best to bring it out.”

~ Paul in I Thessalonians 5:13-15 (The Message)

See also Jesus and Paul Under Fire

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Do You Make These 8 Mistakes When Reading the Bible?

We recently added a new episode to the podcast. In this episode, I explore 8 mistakes that are commonly made when reading the Scriptures. I’ve made all of them at one time in my life. Click to the links below to listen to it on iTunes, Podbean, or RSS.

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Reclaiming Christianity

“I am looking for the fellowship of the burning heart.  I claim the Methodist and the Baptist as mine and I claim everybody that loves Jesus Christ as mine; but I am looking for the fellowship of the burning heart.  Men and women of all generations and everywhere that love the savior until ‘adoration’ has become the new word and they do not have to be entertained or amused.  This Christ was everything.  He was their all in all  . . . I am looking for men and women who are lost in worship, those who love God until he is the sweetheart of the soul.”

~ A. W. Tozer in Reclaiming Christianity

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Warning: The World is Watching How We Christians Treat One Another

“If Christians cannot extend grace through faithful presence within the body of believers, they will not be able to extend grace to those outside.”

~ James Davison Hunter

Recently, someone asked me the following question.

“Frank, if I had to summarize your ministry, it would be that Jesus is more than we ever imagined and we can learn to live by His life which is evidenced by treating others the way we want to be treated. Would you say that this is accurate?”

My answer: “Yes, that sums it up well.” These two themes are underscored and unpacked in Revise Us Again, Jesus Manifesto, and Beyond Evangelical.

I once wrote a piece for a periodical explaining why I am a Christian. And I ended the piece by asking why those who aren’t Christians have decided not to follow Jesus (yet, at least). Here’s what one person wrote:

“I’m not a Christian because of how most of the Christians I’ve known treat each other. Not loving like their founder taught but just the opposite. I like that your list wasn’t apologetic or combative but personal and I respect that. Rare but nice to see.”

This harkens back to Gandhi’s famous line,

“I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ” . . . If it weren’t for Christians, I’d be a Christian.”

Take a look at this graphic which shows how people search for “Christians” on Google in comparison to “Muslims” and “Jews.” (Credit goes to my friend John Saddington for this analysis). Continue Reading…

On Adversity

“Adversity is like a strong wind. It tears away from us all but the things that cannot be torn, so that we see ourselves as we really are, and not merely as we might like to be.”

~ Arthur Golden

On Faith

“Faith is not primarily a matter of choosing what to believe, as if one were a consumer in a spiritual supermarket, filling one’s trolley with religious goods to match one’s personal needs and preferences. Faith is our response to the astonishing discovery that we have been chosen.”

~ Timothy Radcliffe

A Reformed Professor Interviews Leonard Sweet and Me

Recently, Leonard Sweet and I mixed it up with Reformed professor Steve Brown. Among other things, we talked about the part of Jesus: A Theography that Len and I didn’t agree on and hence left out of the book.

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Sowing Seeds of Discord: Part IV

“There are six things the LORD hates – no, seven things he detests . . . a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.” 

~ Proverbs 6:16, 19

So far we’ve covered three ways in which seeds of discord are sown in the body of Christ.

The first is to tell others what someone else allegedly said about them.

The second is to misrepresent others.

The third is to judge the motives of another.

In this post, I’m going to address another. It’s what the Bible calls “heresy.”

The popular understanding of heresy is that it refers to false doctrine. But this is not entirely correct.

While heresy certainly includes the teaching of false doctrine, the Greek word translated “heresies” in the New Testament actually refers to creating a sect. That is, it’s the act of dividing a body of believers by persuading them to rally around a certain idea or practice . . . even if that idea or practice happens to be true.

Consequently, a person can be a heretic with the truth.

Let me give you a real-life example from a church I once knew many years ago. Continue Reading…

Sowing Seeds of Discord: Part III

“There are six things the LORD hates – no, seven things he detests . . . a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.”

~ Proverbs 6:16, 19

One sure way to destroy a friendship, alienate people, and cause division is to judge another person’s motives.

It’s perfectly fine to judge someone’s actions.

Lying about someone is wrong. Paying them a sincere compliment is good. Those are value judgments.

But to impute motives to their hearts is wrong and Scripture condemns it.

When someone says something like, “Tommy told that joke because he was trying to garner attention and is full of pride.”

Or . . .

“Candy wore that dress because she was trying to impress Rick.”

Or  . . .

“Bill posted that update on his Facebook page because he was trying to make Andrea jealous.”

Or . . . “Tim said all of that in order to prove to himself that he’s better than his father” . . . they are attempting to read someone else’s heart.

Continue Reading…